An action shot of not-me. |
I did it for survival. I was a scrawny kid. I'd been born two months preemie and underweight, and I really didn't fill out until I was in my twenties. I wasn't much into sports as a kid, didn't run terribly fast, couldn't throw a ball very far. Team sports? Forget it. I was the last one picked. l was an easy target for the jocks and bullies at school, and I was tired of it. So: Karate!
I walked away from in when I turned 18. After that? Meh. I really didn't exercise at all for the next 30 years or so.
* * *
One day about 3 or 4 years ago, as the first worn threads of my former life began to unravel, and I was still new to sobriety, and was two weeks out of rehab, I was jonesing for a drink, my nerve endings were raw, and the world was still in Covid lockdown, there was nowhere to go, and I wanted nothing more than to climb out of my own skin.
I was pacing around in the garage when I spotted my old bike, the one I had brought with me to Florida from DC. It was wedged against the wall behind a shelf we'd put up the year before, forgotten. When was the last time I'd ridden it? I pulled it out, checked the tires, the chain. On an impulse, I decided to take it for a ride around the block.
I came home an hour later, winded, exhausted, tired. And something else: Calm. I was at peace. The cravings were gone for the moment, and my body (then 35 pounds heavier) felt light. It took me a minute to recognize what I was feeling: I felt good.
I ride that same bike every single day now, at least once, sometimes twice, in any weather that's safe. I ride 12-15 miles at a go, and I always feel stronger and more balanced in my head afterwards. I miss it if I can't ride.
Imagine: Me. Missing exercise. The world has gone mad.
* * *
I mention all of this because this morning, as I awakened to a glorious new day of retired bliss, as I gazed upon this beautiful morning and the rich bounty set before my table, I lifted my face to the sun and thought:
Meh.
Yeah, that was it. I mean: here I am, I finally bought my own emancipation, I'm finally empowered to spend my days doing whatever I want, I'm squarely in the "not-rich-but-doing-okay" category, I finally have the opportunity to explore all the things I've never had time for, and that's the best I can do? Meh!?
Meh. |
Welcome to the Wonderful World of Dysthymia! I had never heard the term until I started therapy, and now there's no escaping it: I am dysthymic. It's not the end of the world, it's apparently not even full-blown depression, just a vague, below-the-surface simmer point that hovers just below the state called "happy." It's common to
It's not usually treated with medication. I'm not even sure it's considered a "disorder," so much as a factory preset for a subset of the population.
Anyway, I didn't feel like doing any of my things today. Things I like, things I enjoy, things I've chosen to pursue. Even the bike had fallen silent to me, inert. Nothing was wrong, necessarily, but nothing appealed either.
Meh.
* * *
I decided to get on the bike and take her for a spin around the neighborhood. I wouldn't go far, just enough to keep the concept of "riding my bike" operationalized in my head. I do this, I "operationalize" -- that is, make a habit of -- things I know need to happen every day, and that I want to happen by reflex, without arguing with myself about it. Sorta like Nike's "Just Do It," but for ADLs and writing and exercise. Things like that.
So, I let my body put itself on the bike, didn't think about the fact that it was too windy and there were probably a billion people cluttering up the bike lanes. Just got and went, like that first day a few years ago. No goal, no destination, just go through the familiar motions of pedaling.
As I suspected, the neighborhood was already alive and vibrant with people. The sun was shining, already warm, but the air was still cool. I had just put air in my tires yesterday, and now they glided on the concrete like it was smooth as glass.
And then the dopamine apparently kicked in, because suddenly I was on the long empty stretch of road several miles away from home, flying, flying like ET on my bike across the moon.
Kinda like... |
Or something like that. I think I actually laughed a little. There it was, from out of nowhere, something not to be commanded, but coaxed:
Joy.
But I've learned something. I can manage these moods. No, I can't force a feeling. I can't chase what I isn't there. I can't be what I am not.
A fitness buff, for example. Or a perky optimist. But you know what I can do? I can ride my bike. And you know what I can be? Better.
Not this happy. This person is on something. |
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